The Swinger movement and adultery

It's time to take off the mask. Let us recognize it; Since time immemorial there has been infidelity within marriage or couple relationship. It does not matter what religions, morals or "decent" customs of one time or another say, the truth is that it has been common for a couple, married or not, to decide at some point to go in Looking for something that satisfies an appetite that, being natural, has usually been considered as sinful or inconvenient and that for many reasons (annoyance, incompatibility, difference of temper, etc.) does not find in the couple. This was much more true in men than in women, although women are not far behind. This has given rise to comedies, dramas, tragedies and even wars ... but already at the beginning of a new millennium that has been signified by unsuspected advances in all areas of human life, could this point be left unchallenged or addressed? And the contradictory: Puritans and moralists defend the traditional concept of fidelity - although many, in fact, hypocritically and surreptitiously inflict it - as one who defends a right to property; That is, being "loved" is actually seen as something that can not be borrowed or given to another because it loses value; On the other hand, if two beings wish to commit themselves to a total and absolute fidelity from one to the other-and vice versa-for life, no one can deny that it is something plausible and even admirable, as long as This fidelity is also in total and absolute freedom. But everyday reality is different; In our society, young people are forced, at the time of marriage, to exchange vows for life at an age in which many of the ideas and notions are not totally affirmed and much less freely chosen, but rather obey Education, customs and social pressure. But people change over the years and with life, and what we will think tomorrow is not exactly what we think today. What then to do with a commitment that becomes a tedious and heavy burden? It is when many opt for an exit that from the outset, they have described as immoral: adultery, deceiving the couple. This is where the swinger movement, the movement of the range of movement, or redundancy, enters the scene in the sexual behavior of couples and marriages. Because a natural consequence of adopting this different morality and with it the lifestyle that it brings is the end of infidelity. And with it, adultery also ends. Some will sound strange, but the true swinger hates adultery. To adulterate (from the Latin adulterare = to alter, to falsify, to dishonor) is to change illegitimatically and unilaterally the nature, the true sense of some previous commitment; There are sacred covenants such as friendship, paternity or maternity and of course marriage. When one of the spouses violates the word committed ("I will be faithful to you, I will not have carnal contact with anyone other than you") falls into adultery, and this not only covers the sexual part of the couple but can understand any point that both Agree and agree, whether it is not to dance or go to the movies with someone other than the couple. But what happens when this agreement is reviewed and both spouses reach a new agreement, where they contemplate, respect and accept the true nature of each person, without deception, without folds? Adultery is not such.

Almost by logical definition, the swinger is someone who enjoys the maximum of his freedom, exercised with total respect for the integrity of others, starting with the couple. By putting morale where it should be, in the heart and mind, and removing it from the genital area and the endocrine system, the swinger movement begins by accepting the natural inclinations of every human person, without detriment at all to ethics. When a couple or couple begins to openly talk about their preferences, concerns and sexual fantasies among themselves, it is when a total empathy between the two spouses or grooms is generated, because by accepting their own appetites and inclinations in front of the couple, Of his consort. And as a consequence, that's when the end of infidelity comes.

2918/5000 2396 carácter por encima de los 5000 máximos permitidos: ue busque -muchas veces sin decir nada a la parejauna diversificación de eso que tanto le ha agradado, sin que ello signifique que lo rechace totalmente o que le haya dejado de gustar. ¿Para que esperar todo esto? Lo razonable es conversar, razonar...y ponerse de acuerdo. Al replantearse las cosas, ya ante la evidencia de la verdadera naturaleza intima de ambos cónyuges, no solo es factible sino que se vuelve deseable el llegar a un nuevo acuerdo, a un pacto que realmente pueda ser respetado por ambas partes y es, a partir de ese momento, y de común acuerdo entre ambos cónyuges, cuando cualquier acto sexual de los dos aunque sea con una persona diferente se convierte intrínsecamente en una actividad de la pareja, sea ambos actuando activamente o uno activa y el otro pasivamente, pero tácitamente ambos siempre presentes por el simple hecho de que la"aventura" del esposo o esposa, es parte de un pacto, parte de un compromiso de amor, de aceptación y de entendimiento plenos. Esta, además, esa comezón de la curiosidad por lo nuevo, por lo diferente. Al fin y al cabo, el ser humano es explorador por naturaleza. Y algunas personas gustan de experimentar más que otras. Como sucede en tantas otras cosas, lo inesperado, lo diferente y ¿por que no? algo que resulte ser frescamente emocionante, suele ser la mejor receta para combatir el aburrimiento. Al haber el permiso del cónyuge para explorar y expandir las fronteras de la sexualidad de cada quien, la infidelidad pierde razón de ser, se hace totalmente innecesaria. En su lugar quedara la aceptación total del ser amado y es en ese momento cuando la promesa de buscar la felicidad de la pareja amada puede tornarse en realidad. Claro, para derrotar esa moral anquilosada que ha precipitado a la hipocresía y al engaño a tantos hombres y mujeres, es necesario derrotar primero el malsano demonio de los celos. Muchas personas admiten abiertamente que los celos no son otra cosa que inseguridad, pero sin embargo, que difícil ha sido para muchos despojarse de esa baja y enfermiza pasión. Cuando la búsqueda del placer personal se basa en la búsqueda del placer del ser amado, no queda lugar para los celos, porque estos son el síntoma mas claro de un egoísmo que es incapaz de anteponer el bienestar de quien se dice amar; es decir, el amor a si mismo es mucho mayor que el amor hacia la otra persona. Y eso no es verdadero amor. Just as we have different tastes and appetites in other things, in the sexual we do not all feel the same sexual impulse and many times we discover that the being with which we connect so much in different areas of human happening, in others we simply tend to be divergent and manifest Preferences. And the other side for the cooling of the relationships of pair: The boredom. No matter how much a person likes something, if that is given over and over and over again, it will inevitably come the time you seek - many times without saying anything to the couple diversification of what has pleased him so much, without this meaning To reject it totally or that it has stopped to like it. Why wait all this? The reasonable thing is to talk, to reason ... and to agree. By rethinking things, and in the face of the evidence of the true intimate nature of both spouses, it is not only feasible but also that it is desirable to reach a new agreement, a pact that can really be respected by both parties and is, from Of that moment, and by mutual agreement between the two spouses, when any sexual act of the two even with a different person becomes intrinsically an activity of the couple, both acting actively or one actively and the other passively, but tacitly both Always present for the simple fact that the "adventure" of the husband or wife is part of a pact, part of a commitment of love, acceptance and full understanding. This, in addition, that itch of the curiosity by the new thing, by the different thing. After all, the human being is an explorer by nature. And some people like to experience more than others. As in so many other things, the unexpected, the different and why not? Something that turns out to be freshly exciting, is usually the best recipe to fight boredom. Having the permission of the spouse to explore and expand the boundaries of each person's sexuality, infidelity loses its raison d'être, it becomes totally unnecessary. In its place will be the total acceptance of the loved one and it is at that moment when the promise to seek the happiness of the beloved couple can become reality. Of course, in order to defeat this moribund morality which has precipitated hypocrisy and deception against so many men and women, it is necessary first to defeat the unhealthy demon of jealousy. Many people openly admit that jealousy is nothing but insecurity, but nevertheless, how difficult it has been for many to shed that low and sickly passion. When the search for personal pleasure is based on the search for the pleasure of the loved one, there is no place for jealousy, because these are the clearest symptom of an egoism that is incapable of putting the well-being of the one who is said to love; That is, love for oneself is much greater than love for the other person. And that is not true love.